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Harry Pace Young Sr. was born on May 16, 1943, in Excelsior, West Virginia. He was the seventh child born to the union of Henry Garnell Young and Mary Emma (Jones) Young. Harry attended McDowell school system, in particular the segregated Excelsior High School, which was located in War, West Virginia.
Following the completion of his formal education, Harry was aware the job opportunities would be limited in Excelsior. The only choice was to become a coal miner. Harry had no desire to work in the coal mines and followed the Young’s migration path to Massachusetts where he reconnected with his siblings Henry, Mary Ann, George, Courtney, and Vivian.
Dissatisfied with the work opportunities in Boston, Harry joined the Army in 1964. Harry’s chosen course in the Army was to become a paratrooper but his excellence as a sharpshooter and soldier afforded him the opportunity to become an Army Ranger. Harry’s leadership abilities led to his training new recruits. His skills as a Ranger and a trainer for the Army were instrumental in Harry being called to West Point to train cadets in warfare. He earned several medals for bravery in action including rescuing fellow soldiers from enemy fire in Vietnam.
Following his discharge from the army Harry worked for the Raytheon Company in Waltham, Massachusetts. However, the opportunities for advancement were extremely limited. Moving to the Mutual of Omaha Insurance Company, Harry discovered the insurance business offered more freedom and business opportunities for growth. He rose through the ranks from trainer to full salesman with the strong possibility of his own territory. The promised sales territory was delayed, but Harry’s entrepreneurial skills were awakened. He decided to work with his brother Lawrence Young and purchased a truck to sell produce to inner city communities who had limited access to fresh food.
Harry’s parents had moved to Boston to be near most of their children. When his father became seriously ill Harry returned to Boston to be near his parents. Harry’s goals were to buy a home, purchase a cab and own his own business. He fulfilled his first goal when he purchased a home on Algonquin Street in Dorchester on March 16, 1976. Harry also became an independent cab driver and worked in partnership with Helen Davis to manage their cab business for a number of years before dissolving the partnership.
Harry was moving toward all goals until his physical condition interfered with him realizing his full dreams. Though his physical stamina was weakened by two major illnesses and a fall from the roof while re-roofing his home, he continued to push through, and he put up a strong fight. In his later years Harry focused more on his style of cooking – for example, a roasted pig at the family reunion. Harry was always present for major events. He would travel throughout the night if he was needed by another family member. And, most certainly he would attend the celebratory events of his sons, as they assumed the different positions as brothers of the Masons.
Harry’s first marriage to Roberta (Fields) Young-Jackson on New Year’s Eve in 1963 produced two sons, Robert Young and Harry Young Jr. Harry’s grandchildren are Shavarsh Morrissey, Tamisha Young, Tatiana Morrissey, Jordan Young, Justice Young, Brea Young, and Robert Young Jr. Harry’s great grandchildren are: Takyus Lauture, Jada Morrissey, Messiah Young and Jaire Young. Later in his life he married Edna (Rasberry) Young, and they resided at 40 Algonquin, Dorchester, MA.
On July 25, 2003, Harry and Sandra Young married and Algonquin Street became the home of their blended families. Harry welcomed the new family with open arms and love.
In 2017 Harry and Sandra retired to Vermont. Harry wasn’t one for saying “I love you.” Instead, when I came home from work, he had planted me a beautiful garden filled with dancing roses, peonies and lilies bordered by hostas, green beans and tomatoes to name just a few. We had our challenges and sat at the kitchen table to talk them out and strategized solutions and compromises. He serenaded me in his slightly off-key way while dancing me around the living room and kitchen. He made me feel safe and appreciated. And in return I couldn’t imagine how we had come together at this point in our lives, him about 50 and me a bit younger. He was my unexpected gift. He dispensed concern for my children and love for my grandchildren. For the first time in my life, I felt sheltered. Harry was my knight in chinos and shirts with two pockets who rode up to my rescue in a shiny yellow cab. Just when I was reluctantly accepting, I had missed my chance to be romanced there he was making it absolutely clear to me that I was his choice, no doubts, no exceptions.
There are no words, phrases, or songs that can express how grateful I am to have been loved by him. I will miss his uncompromising stands on ‘how it should be done’; his sly humor; the gentle way he held me; the trust we had. He showed me when he saw the end of his journey and soothed me when he could, leaned on me when he needed, and loudly proclaimed with his last breaths “I love my wife.” I am a better person for having loved you my Harry and you know “I will love my husband” always.
Though we are not able to hug him today, we will never forget the man with a big heart and love for everyone. He will be sorely missed by all family members and friends. Harry is preceded in death by his father, Henry Young Sr. and mother, Mary Emma Young. He was preceded in death by seven siblings: Lawrence Young, Mary Anne Williams, Courtney Young, George Young, Jerome Young, Vivian Boone and Henry Young, Jr. He is survived by four siblings Franklin Young, Yvonne Young, Alice Edwards, Dawne Mills.